Positive side coaching
Individual often take on specific roles in teams or in interactions with a partner, some will become the jokers, some whiners, some are aggressive, others are diplomats etc. The role that individuals adopt is however not the same as their personality, but a context specific social construct. Anyone at anytime can make another expressive choice, break their routine role, if they want to, and thus change the dynamics of that specific interaction. The other party’s reaction is hard to predict, but they for sure cannot respond the same way anymore.
Choose another target, someone you wish would change their behaviour. You might have recognized certain behavioural traits of that person that you would like to get rid of, that is good. Also make it very clear to yourself what kind of behaviour you would like to witness in the future. If for example you would want them to stop whining and complaining, it is not enough yet, you must also define that you would like them to first start to tell you about positive things and in the end celebrate success. You have two simple tools: Ignoring and encouraging. So, start with ignoring all unwanted behaviour and encouraging every little step towards the goal you have defined, using all you have learned in previous agent levels! If you are being consistent you will see the changes occur step by step. Report the outcomes.
Complete the mission by writing down observations like:
- What changed in you?
- How did other people react?
- What else caught your attention?
Have fun comparing what other recruits wrote!